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The invite from my cousin’s daughter showed up Saturday and I actually used that thing from the video, put $150 in an envelope before I even opened the card to see what the registry wanted.

Felt weird doing it backwards like that. But it took maybe 3 minutes total instead of the usual hour of scrolling a registy trying to decide if a $60 towel set is a good gift or a weird one.

My husband asked why I didn’t just wait and see what they actually needed first. I didn’t really have a good answer for him. Just said it’s a rule I’m trying out.

Wedding number 3 since that post about the invitations piling up on my counter. At this point I’ve lost actual count of how many are still left on the calendar this year.

In other news the tomatoes finally came in, about 3 weeks later than last year. Not sure if that’s the weather or just me forgetting to water most of July. Gave a bag to the guy next door since there’s way more than 2 people can eat, and he came back with a jar of something his wife made. Relish maybe. Didn’t ask.

Commute was rough this morning too, accident on the highway turned the usual 90 minutes into almost 2 hours. Sat there thinking about the wedding thing most of the way, which is a strange way to spend 2 hours in traffic.

Small win today I guess, even if it felt backwards doing the money first.

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  • OatMilk10.20 23:20

    My husband asked the exact same question when I mailed a check before even opening my niece’s registry 2 years ago! Guess doing it backward is just easier than staring at towel sets for an hour trying to decide.

  • DewyDreamer10.21 02:18

    3 minutes beats an hour of registry scrolling

  • Good Enough Skin10.21 04:33

    Three weddings in and you’re still explaining the backwards order to your husband every time, that part got me. I switched to a flat $100 rule for my last two weddings and just stopped second guessing the registry altogether.

  • dewdrop10.21 06:35

    Losing count after three is honestly just proof you’ve hit peak wedding season, no shame in that at all! I did the same backwards move for my neighbor’s daughter back in May, $120 in the card before I even looked at the registry, and it was weirdly fine.

  • SunnySide10.21 09:44

    thanks, did the same with $100 last month

  • SunnySide10.28 10:37

    is this your 4th one this year?

  • → SunnySidehoneyoatmealAuthor10.29 00:41

    that’s OP’s ‘count’, not mine – I’m at 3 since june myself

  • honeyoatmealAuthor10.29 23:35

    thought about switching to a flat amount too but I still bump it up for closer family, this one was $150 since she’s my cousin’s kid

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